About Nicole
Nicole Thomte is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing in Minnesota. She brings 13 years of clinical experience and a long history of community-focused work to her sessions.
Background and approach
Nicole uses an affirming, sex-positive stance and centers each person’s goals and values in therapy. Her style is collaborative and exploratory.
She listens first and follows the client's lead, offering observations that can reveal patterns people miss. Nicole uses practical techniques from solution-focused work alongside other approaches to help people make changes that fit their lives.
Nicole has spent years working with people who face stigma and marginalization. That background informs her attention to culture, identity, and power in everyday struggles.
She aims to create a space where people can talk about sexuality, kink, polyamory, gender questions, and relationship concerns without judgment. In sessions she blends clear skill-building with a warm, down-to-earth tone.
Conversations may include problem-solving steps, emotion regulation tools, and ways to reframe unhelpful thinking. She values humor and the small wins that carry change forward.
Nicole’s practice also attends to trauma, grief, chronic illness, and workplace fatigue. She helps people manage anxiety, depression, bipolar mood concerns, ADHD, and stress tied to life transitions or caregiving.
Her approach is practical and paced to each person’s needs.
How Nicole’s Approaches Translate to Online Therapy
Client-Centered Therapy focuses on the person’s experience and priorities. The therapist listens carefully, reflects what she hears, and helps people feel understood so they can name what matters and decide next steps. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, looks at how thoughts and behaviors interact and teaches concrete exercises to reduce anxiety, manage mood, and change unhelpful patterns. Dialectical Behavior Therapy, DBT, adds practical skills for managing strong emotions and improving communication, which can help with intense relationship or anger issues.Finding the right approach is part of the work. Nicole will talk with each person about goals and preferences and then suggest which methods to try. That process is collaborative and open to adjustment as needs change over time.
Online therapy offers flexible ways to meet. Video calls let people work face to face when they want that connection. Phone sessions use less bandwidth and can be easier during busy days. Live chat and text-based messaging make brief check-ins or step-by-step coaching possible between longer sessions. These options help fit therapy into a routine, manage symptoms in the moment, and stay connected when schedules or mobility make in-person visits harder.
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Specialties and expertise
Top specialties
- Stress, Anxiety
- LGBT
- Relationship issues
Also works with
- ADHD
- Anger management
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Bipolar disorder
- Career difficulties
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Family conflicts
- Gender dysphoria
- Grief
- Intimacy-related issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Self esteem
- Sexuality
- Trauma and abuse
- Women's issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 13 years
- Licensed
- Minnesota
- Languages
- English